Why I focus on the good things in life
Recently I had a visitor. A visitor that I love, and that I grew to love more during the visit. Of course it is easy to focus on the good stuff in life while someone you love visits you, or is it?
While he was here we knew we had a limited time together, and that in a few days he’d leave and be very very far away again. (I mean 4 country borders far away!)
We were both very close to falling into a very common trap: Focusing on that we’ll soon be apart again. Being sad that we wont see each other again for god knows how long. Instead we, together, made the active choice to focus on that we were there, together with each other and sharing our love. Doing things we wanted to do while spending time together. Like taking a few walks around town to show him around, cooking some food together, celebrating the new year, watching some series and movies. Being silly and stupid together.
Even the last night, I didn’t focus on him leaving. Sure I made one extra plan, so we’d get a bit more time in the morning before he’d have to rush off and leave. But that was it.
That was the love part. How about the rest of my life? This fall I’ve spent a lot of time in competitive gaming, even if the game developers announce that part of the game as casual, there’s quite a competitive aspect to it. First weeks I was stuck, with hardly any sleep because we were at war! I was hit by waves and waves of negativity from various co-gamers. That we weren’t doing well enough that we never could do better. I decided that we needed a discussion thread where we focused on the good things we were doing. What was fun today, what was the best encounter with the enemy and where did we feel we excelled.
Even when getting roflstomped (rofl-stomped basically means the enemy is steamrolling over you laughing while doing it), I wanted us to find the silver lining to our could, I knew it would encourage us.
Did it help? I believe so, because I choose to believe it helped! I choose to believe that positive thinking will change things around you. Positive thinking helps you take over obstacles that otherwise would be impossible. Since this we’ve stabilized, and jelled as a community.
Today I could focus on how horribly wrong my latest internship went, I could tell all my friends about it. I did tell a few and I’m telling you but without going into details. At the same time I’m choosing to focus on some of the great contacts I rekindled for my own sake, and the contacts I shared which did something good for the company I interned for. It was not the right fit, right now. It might be some other time, or never. It just wasn’t meant to be, this also means that I can move on and focus on finding something that will fit me, and end up getting located where I need to be.
I can use my positive energy and outlook on life to get me where I want to go. Where I want to go right now is towards a job that will bring me money and time so I can spend it together with and on people I love, which includes family that I’ve been rekindling my contact with the past 6 months.
Life is too good to sit at home and mope, yet I have those days as well. And I can deal with that, because I know that tomorrow, or next week if that is what I need, I will be back on track and be the happy and passionate person you all know me as!